You meet a man, he's great. He has a lot of things you want + things you didn't know you wanted.
But when you go through your 'checklist' of what is an ideal marriage, you aren't sure if he fulfills all your criteria. (but then again you never really know if he will or not, until you are faced with the scenario. i.e. you may think someone might be a good father, but then they might become one and do things totally conflicting with your expectations).
There are so many things that go into a good partnership. How do you know if 'he' is the right one or not? Do you fall in love because someone meets the criteria, or do you fall in love and then check to see if they meet the criteria. How do you know if you are 'in love'? Is it a feeling? More importantly, is it a feeling that can be re-created by someone else, possibly someone who may be a 'better' match?
Is falling in love a choice?
Please advise.
3 comments:
Falling in love is not a choice - getting married definitely is. Here is where the tug of war between love and practicality is born. You must stay true to the love in your heart as well as the rationality imposed on you by your mind. It is the person that fulfills you in both ways that is the "one."
This one definitely got me thinking... but jelly put it into great words. I guess if you think too rationally you could convince yourself that someone is the one, or that you're in love with them, but it's still not real love. You'll only start realizing your truly in love once you start falling.
PB - no posts lately?
Dying for an update
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