Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It’s the best thing…You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I’m saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can’t be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don’t.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don’t.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You’re saying I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don’t want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.
Remember the movie When Harry Met Sally... aww how cute were they, falling in love slowly and romantically... and .... by... default? Did Sally really love Harry, or did she just settle?
Well we know Harry and Sally eventually got together and lived happily ever after... but not all of us fantasize of ending up with our guy friend. In fact for us girls, the guy is probably our friend because we don't actually want to date them. So why do we keep them around? Is there actually a part of us that hopes we may eventually end up with them?
If the sex always gets in the way and all friendships with guys are doomed, why do we women still persist on having guy friends? What purpose do they serve us? The better question is, why do we even have guy friends that we engage in sex with? Why not just sex with a casual partner or sex with a boyfriend... why sex with a guy friend? Why make shit complicated?
2 comments:
Well I don't know if you've had sex with a guy friend but what i can tell you is that my experience was one of the worst i've ever had. I lost a friend, and worse yet, other friends we had in common.
I hope if you have your experience has been better.
This is true. I was looking for something online that would answer this huge question I have. I broke up with my long term boyfriend and all the sudden ALL my guy friends decided they would profess their feelings? One literally told me he loved me and wanted to have kids together? Another invited me to a movie but showed up with roses and then insisted he pay for everything? Then last night a different guy tried to kiss me and was very aggressive about it. I came to the conclusion. I have a lot of guy friends, but they are NOT friends. I basically don't have any friends. I just have guys that want to have sex with me. I'm kinda freaking out about this.
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