So I was speaking with a girlfriend today, and she mentioned how she had met a charming, cute, available boy. The only problem? In her words, "I've dated him before." And here is the classic scenario of dating deja vu. Ok, so she hasn't dated him literally, but she just got out of a relationship with a man who had basically the same specs (and for the sake of her anonymity, I'm going to keep this pretty vague). And so, for her, there was no reason to walk down the same dead end road twice.
Which leads me to my next question: why is it that for some of us, it seems like all the men we connect with, we've dated before? Are we doomed to perpetually seek out the same (and apparently wrong - since it hasn't worked out yet!) man? Or, if we rule men out right off the bat for having too many superficial similarities to an ex, are we dooming ourselves to pre-judging and ruling out potentially great guys?
When should we heed the warnings of dating deja vu, and when should we check the deja vu baggage at the door?
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