We've all been there. You're in a relationship and the guy your with is making things difficult. He isn't being flexible. He isn't changing. He doesn't want to meet your needs - no matter how much you try to get him to. But yet, he says he loves you. And so you stay.
Or, there is the guy who stops calling even though "everything was perfect." The one who failed to say, "All I Want is You" but never gave you a reason.
We all fantasize about the man that says, "you name the terms - all I want is you" but is that really what we want? Maybe we've been lucky, all this time, that he didn't change, that he didn't bend and brake to be what we wanted, because maybe, when the luster wore off, he'd be upset about the man he became for you. Maybe we are actually lucky that things didn't work out - even if we didn't get an explanation - because he really wasn't as great a fit as we thought.
Perhaps the man we want is the one who just fits, without you having to name the terms. The one whose terms meet your terms. The one who seizes the opportunity to grow with you and meet your needs, but fundamentally is your match. The one who doesn't run away because he sees the value in the relationship as much as you do.
Fall in love with the one who you accept - as is. Chances are, he'll be the one to accept who you are - as is. Then the relationship will be on both of your terms.
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