Dating Deja Vu?

So I was speaking with a girlfriend today, and she mentioned how she had met a charming, cute, available boy. The only problem? In her words, "I've dated him before." And here is the classic scenario of dating deja vu. Ok, so she hasn't dated him literally, but she just got out of a relationship with a man who had basically the same specs (and for the sake of her anonymity, I'm going to keep this pretty vague). And so, for her, there was no reason to walk down the same dead end road twice.

Which leads me to my next question: why is it that for some of us, it seems like all the men we connect with, we've dated before? Are we doomed to perpetually seek out the same (and apparently wrong - since it hasn't worked out yet!) man? Or, if we rule men out right off the bat for having too many superficial similarities to an ex, are we dooming ourselves to pre-judging and ruling out potentially great guys?

When should we heed the warnings of dating deja vu, and when should we check the deja vu baggage at the door?

The Pinata Theory

Last night my girlfriend and I hosted a party at my place. The theme: a kid's birthday party. We went all out: candy galore, and our version of spiked punch (homemade sangria). Oh yes, and the piece de resistance - a four foot tall corona bottle pinata filled with mexican candy.

So basically, my primary intiative in having the party to begin with was to have an excuse to purchase a pinata. And what I realized, after watching several of my drunken, blindfolded friends (ok, myself included) swinging away enthusiastically at this poor candy filled paper beer bottle is that sometimes, all you can do is close your eyes, put on your game face, and try to score. Ladies, the time to be timid and calculated, and risk averse is done.

Let's make 2008 about the here and now, about the potential of scoring today. Whether it be in work or relationships, sometimes the spoils of war are sweeter than you may think...

No Man Land Initiative One: Bringin' Sexy Back

Hello pussycats. Yes I know, it is 24 days past the new year, but my delay in posting actually represents some progress - I've taken up Yoga (I know, I'm so LA). Forget new year's resolutions (since we all know how well those work out). This year is all about No Man Land New Year Initiatives (I need to come up with an acronym for that one... any suggestions?). Last year was about the No Man Land Rules, and this year is about No Man Land Initiatives.

(btw, click on the pic to see some action ;)

Thus far, initiative number one has been to recapture the summer bod. Therefore, I recently decided that I'm going to become a Yogi (and not the picnic basket chasin' type). Let's hope this time around, my exercise regimen exceeds all expectations and lasts longer than one month.

What is it about relationships that causes the lb's to increase in proportion to your happiness? Sexy Jelly seems to be replaced by Happy Belly. Not for long though, I'm bringing sexy back one yoga pose at a time...